Everyone has a dream. Something they long for, something they want to achieve. They might tell people they know, or they might keep it a secret. But it’s there, a yearning for something more. A hope for something they don’t yet have in their lives. Maybe it’s to be a famous writer/pop star/ film star. Maybe it’s to be a successful business person. Maybe it’s just to raise a happy family. Maybe to simply be fit and healthy. The list is long and varied but there is no denying we all have something, maybe many things, on that list.
But how much effort do you put into your dream? How much time do you give towards achieving it? If it only exists in your head then the answer is obviously none. Then it is only a pipe dream. These are dreams which are described as ‘unattainable’ or ‘fanciful hopes or schemes’, even ‘illusionary’.
Thing is, a pipe dream can become a reality. If you put the time into it. It doesn’t have to be much time to begin with. As long as it’s dedicated, focused time. Start as small as you want. Just a little here and there. The first step is always the hardest. Like a baby you might just keep trying to stand and fall. But when you keep trying, keep learning, keep doing that little bit more, there will come a time when it all comes together and suddenly you’ll find yourself walking in the right direction.
Some people want to do things, want their dreams to be real, but hold themselves back. They could do this for a multitude of reasons, most likely fear. Fear of failure or fear of the unknown. Fear of what people will think. What if it doesn’t work out? What if it does and it isn’t what they expected or wanted after all? The problem is, holding back doesn’t do yourself any favours and what you do in the end is hold yourself back from achieving the things you want to achieve, the things you dream about.
Why do that to yourself? Why sell yourself short? There’s a quote by the late American entrepreneur and motivational speaker Jim Rohn that I often see associated with Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson. “We must all suffer from one of two pains: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret”. I know which one I would rather have. I would guess it’s the same one we all want. Discipline isn’t a hard thing to master, regret can be almost insurmountable.
In a conversation I had with friends recently a person was mentioned who said he wanted to try the self-defence class we were in but didn’t think he had the time. Then he didn’t think he was committed enough. Then he didn’t think it was for him. But how do you know what’s for you if you don’t even try? Why think yourself out of something before you have even begun? I know I used to. For over 20 years.
Why not take that first step anyway? Then you’ll really know. And if you find it isn’t for you. Just stop, turn around, and start walking in a different direction. If you want something bad enough you will find the time and commitment needed. You will find a way.
When I started this blog it was as a way to keep me accountable to myself on this journey of being better, to keep me pushing forward, build a habit of writing daily. I wasn’t even sure if I could do it. Didn’t know if people would care about what I was writing. At one stage I called it my glorified diary, which it is to an extent. But by doing this I have found that bigger, larger, even what might be called outlandish dreams, are coming into my head. And there isn’t even a pipe in sight. Which is saying something coming from this reformed heavy pot smoker.
As a single working dad there are days where it is hard to find the time. Hard but not impossible. There are times where the only chance I have to write is after getting my son to sleep. Bear in mind that since his mother moved out he will only go to bed when I do. So this usually means me falling asleep for a while, or at least pretending to, then getting up again to get writing. Those late nights are always followed by early mornings. Sometimes the bags under my eyes are big enough to go shopping with!
My point being, if I wanted I could list you a litany of excuses as to why I can’t do the things I need to do to work towards my dreams. I’m on the wrong side of 40, have a son to raise and a house to look after. I need to make enough money to make that possible. I have no immediate family near enough to help with anything, no real support system to rely on. In fact the only little bit of support I get is from my soon-to-be ex-wife. And that doesn’t account for much.
Thing is, those excuses, well, that’s just what they are, excuses. Reasons for not doing things. We can all have them but what good do they achieve? Do you really want to be sitting at the end of your days thinking I could have done this, I should have done this, when in reality all you ever did was think about it. Make excuses for not doing it.
Why not take action, make the effort, while you still can? Why not right now after reading this post? There is no one to be held accountible for your life other than yourself. You might just find that even being on the path towards your dreams will lift you like you never imagined. Raise a hope that was once forgotten. Ignite a fire long since dormant.
Life itself may only be a dream and we all know how limitless and wonderful a dream can be. This is your life, your dream, why limit yourself? Throw a few more possibilities into the mix, actually why stop at a few, throw as many as you can in there. Dare to dream big. You’ll thank yourself in the end.