Two people I know had some minor upsets this past week. It’s not my place to divulge the details but suffice to say it involved people very close to them putting a dampener on their dreams, interfering with their hopes, raining on their parade.
I was upset for both of them, actually a bit enraged. The people who love you, those closest to you, be it friends or family, should be the people you can trust the most. But not just trust that they won’t betray you, or trust they will be at your side when you are down. You should be able to trust those people with your hopes and dreams. The aspirations you probably keep secret from everyone else. The longings you have to improve your lot in life.
They should also be your greatest supporters. It’s easy for them to do that if you become rich, or successful, or famous. But what if you are just at the start of your journey? What if it’s just a dream? Then you might find, as these people did, that those closest to you don’t even want you to set foot on that road and even might go as far as undermining you. Putting a spanner in the works just as the engine begins to run. Blocking that sunshine out with their dark cloud of misery instead of being forthcoming with true love and having hope for your hopes. Supporting you with your dreams.
I understand for a lot of people it’s simply fear. They are afraid to see their loved ones get hurt. Afraid to see them fail. They don’t want to see them suffer. They might also be afraid it might affect their comfortable safe lives. But what about the suffering the person with aspirations will have to endure when they are older? Maybe being filled with regret, even resentment, for not chasing their dreams, for not giving it their all, because someone they love and respect, for whatever reason, encouraged them to not do it, to give up.
Sometimes it’s because they themselves have given up on their hopes and dreams. Often without even trying. I know some people like that. Always negative, never wanting to see anyone try something different, improve upon themselves. It’s almost like bringing others down is the only thing that makes them happy. They are so dissatisfied with life, and so unwilling to take the steps to do anything about it, that they, rather than watching the marching bands pass from the side, or even taking part by carrying a giant inflatable, would rather be the rain on a parade. On all parades.
Whenever anyone tells me of anything they are trying to do, a goal they are trying to achieve, a business idea they want to succeed, my first thought isn’t one of jealousy or questioning why they want to do that. It’s one of joy. One of warmth. I get infected with their excitement.
Here’s someone who is willing to give life a go. Not just settle for what they have. They know the challenges it will bring, the difficulties ahead. But they want to face them. They want to chase their goal. Not just for some sort of fame or adoration or success but because in doing so it makes them feel alive.
These are my kind of people. Dreamers. People with aspirations. They are the people who help elevate this world. They don’t want to be stuck in the mire. Nor are they reaching out for people to grab in the hope they get stuck in there with them. They’re the ones trying to climb their own way out. They see the stars of their life, and even though they still may be far away, they’re going to reach for them anyway.
These are the people we should help lift. Encourage them to go all out. Give it everything they’ve got. Wish them the best and every success. Because they are the people who are really living. Living for more than a mundane reality so many willingly choose to accept.
If you are one of those dreamers, one of the people who has an idea that you want to pursue, an idea that will make you happy, maybe change your life, or others, for the better. I say go for it. Forget the naysayers, the doubters, the haters. Let them rain. It’s coming from their own dark clouds after all. Let them pour it on and wash right off you.
It really doesn’t matter. It will only have an impact on you if you let it. March on to the beat of your own drum. Why let someone else hold you back? Come their rain or hail, sleet or snow. March on. March because your own life depends on it.