The Monster With Green Eyes

As children we are told that monsters aren’t real. That they are just a figment of our imagination, only in our head. That is true. But there is one monster that lurks within us all. A monster that sometimes rears its ugly head when we aren’t expecting it. A head that contains green eyes. The monster of jealousy.

We can all fall victim to this monster at some point or other. There is no specific time in which that monster can arise. It comes at different times, for different reasons. And it’s never pretty.

It might come out because we envy the wealth someone has. It might be because someone is more beautiful than ourselves, is more popular, has more success. It could be because we feel threatened, like when you have a partner and someone is paying them special attention. We each have our reasons for the beast to come forth.

I’ve been a victim of this monster in recent days but not from where I would have expected. I’ve never really been envious of anyone’s riches or success. Always saying to myself their hard work and diligence got them there. My old monster was in relation to my soon-to-be ex-wife and men flirting with her.

But a new one appeared. One I wasn’t expecting. It wasn’t just a case of out it popped either. It was a slow release and it took me until this morning to realise how much it was affecting my mind. Thankfully I’ve seen that monster and put it away.

Since I’ve started getting into blogging and reading more about it I’ve wondered what makes a good blog. Obviously there are lots of different types out there. Each successful in their own right, their own niche. The unifying factor to me was the obvious amounts of time and effort put into their content. Blogs with thousands of followers that have been on the go for years.

But a relatively recent blog which has seen a staggering increase of followers in a very short time frame piqued my attention. I couldn’t understand it. It didn’t seem to be anything special. In fact to me it seemed the antithesis of what would be considered a great blog.

It was more like an Instagram on steroids type of thing. Unlike anything else I had seen it contained more pictures of the admittedly pretty blogger than anything else. The same blogger who was usually the first to like her own post. Something I failed to understand. Was it an algorithm thing or narcissism? Obviously you like what you’ve posted or you wouldn’t have done so. But to actually then hit your own like button on that. To me that takes a certain level of conceitedness.

Oh there were profound appealing quotes which turned out to have been something that was read somewhere else but not attributed to the original author or else attributed to them further down the post. A comment section which often times would resemble something from a dating app indicating that despite what people think about blogging, which to me equates to writing, as long as you look aesthetically pleasing you’ll gain interest.

That particular blogger could be seen everywhere. Any post I looked at they had liked, and usually commented. At one point I had questioned to myself could they be real? Were they a bot? They were that prolific it seemed almost unnatural.

I guess my suspicions arose when a comment I made was liked within minutes. A comment on a post that I made over a month previous. At that time it would have taken a minute to even scroll to where that post and comment was on my blog. It frightened me a little, my paranoia kicked in. Was my account hacked and they could see my notifications?

I then became slightly obsessed by this blogger. I didn’t see then that my eyes were getting greener by the minute. I didn’t realise the thoughts I was having were all stemming from jealousy. I didn’t see that it was my monster poking its head out.

The reality is that person was obviously working very hard at their blog, putting a lot of time and effort into it. Being an active member of the WordPress community. The blog they were doing was in their own style. What felt good for them. And it was working extremely well.

If anything I should have been giving them my support. They were doing what we are all trying to do. Reaching an audience. Having their words read. Making their blog a success.

Whatever they were doing was working, is working. They deserve nothing but praise for what they have achieved. It is very impressive. I had to put my monster away to realise that.

I guess what I’m trying to say is don’t let your jealously affect you the way it effected me. It’s a horrible infectious thing and will spread if you don’t get it under control. It will create problems where there are none. Make you a feel a way about something you actually have no right to feel. A negative feeling that is only in your head after all but may well have consequences.

We are all on our own unique journey and should appreciate other peoples blessings as much as we appreciate our own. That monster of jealousy is an ugly, nasty beast and should be put in the same place as our childhood monsters. Under the bed and out of sight.

18 thoughts on “The Monster With Green Eyes

  1. Agree. Jealousy and envy are very bad monsters 😣 Always need to stay away from them, even if sometimes we even don’t realize what is it that make us feeling uncomfortable πŸ˜£πŸ˜“ We always need to try to stay positive and don’t fill our mind with useless ideas πŸ’•

    1. Totally agree with you. Such negativity shouldn’t be given the time. It’s a terrible thing.
      Thanks for taking the time to comment. Wish you much positivity today…and always!

  2. It was well put! And I agree that jealousy and envy are really destructive, I personally hate them so much and fight them as much as I can because we all felt them at some point…But I disagree on one point: sometimes stating the truth is not necessary jealousy, for an example we have the right to wonder how this blogger is getting all these views, out of curiosity not jealousy…especially if wordpress became Instagram at its best πŸ™‚ Just this and I agree with the rest, we’re all unique and everyone has their own journey and we’re all unique (in some of my posts, I insist that we are as unique as fingerprints) so jealousy is really useless…
    Usually women feel jealousy and envy more than men…I don’t know why but it’s really sad when someone hates you without a reason just because they are jealous…this is the saddest part
    Thank you for sharing this πŸ™‚

    1. Hi Huguette. Thanks for your take on my post. I appreciate a good critical thinker like yourself. Someone who just doesn’t accept what they read or are told. Kudos to you πŸ™‚
      I appreciate your curiosity also. Maybe this blogger has discovered something that hasn’t been utilised by anyone on WordPress or maybe they are great at networking. It’s hard to define what makes a blog successful I guess.
      It is sad when someone can dislike you for no other reason than their own jealousy but at the end of the day it is the jealous person who suffers the most.
      Glad you enjoyed the post anyway.
      Much love to you as always πŸ™‚

      1. Good morning Chris, hope you’re having a good start of the day πŸ™‚ well I accept only what I’m convinced in no matter whom told me even if I was wrong sometimes but I rather take this risk than receiving blindly
        Glad you appreciate my opinion, and probably yes this blogger did something we don’t know or we know but we’re not willing to do, each one is different and free to do what they want. As I said sometimes we’re curious.
        It happens on daily basis, when people hate you and you didn’t harm them in anyway, means they’re jealous and envious and this is sad, as I said women mostly…and yes hard luck for them, it’s not a life to have!
        Thank you for your kindness as always and much love to you as well 😊

      2. Good morning to you too Huguette πŸ™‚ All good here thank you very much.
        I understand and appreciate curiosity as much as the next man/woman. And that blog certainly merits curiosity.
        I agree you normally see jealousy more in women. But then when do men talk about such things? It might not be said as much…but it is still there.
        Hope your morning is going well πŸ™‚

      3. Yes you are right, the do not so it’s there but I believe it’s not that strong or harmful as women, there are always exceptions for both women and men just generally speaking…
        My morning is good, thank you πŸ™‚ wish you a great day!

      4. Just a wee note re comments from your post. I’m even struggling here cause we’re talking on two fronts πŸ˜‚ Just left one on your post and now am back at this one. How do people do it? πŸ™‚ Anyways, gotta do. Duty calls. Take care.

      5. hahah it’s a hassle, not one of your favorite things I’m sure! Don’t worry just do what’s suitable and when you have time
        take care too πŸ™‚

  3. Great Post,it was very engaging and your transparency speaks volumes. I agree, We definitely have to examine ourselves and confront the negativity within themselves.
    YonnieπŸ’œ

    1. Thank you Yonnie. I am glad you appreciate my honesty. Yes, looking at our flaws can be very difficult but it is only by doing so can we grow to be a better more understanding person.
      I appreciate you taking the time to comment. Best wishes to yourself πŸ™‚

  4. Good evening, really liked it, i remember now, when one of mu old friends started to talk about our friend in common badly, i started to sing the song for her go away scary monster go away, and she was like crab i’m really became one?

    1. Thank you. I’m glad you liked it πŸ™‚
      Ha ha I like the way you let your friend know.
      Feeling like that is a terrible waste of energy and is no good for anyone.
      I hope you are having a good night πŸ™‚

      1. I know the feeling, i have been there many times, but with time i understood, that i dont want this kind of feeling in my life, you dont need this kind of energy, because at the first place it wont change anything in their lifes, but it can change you as a person, stay who you areβ˜€οΈπŸŒΌπŸ™I’m not english sorry for my poor english knowledge, still working on itβ˜€οΈπŸŒΌπŸ€—

      2. Your right. And I agree. It can only change you for the worse.
        Don’t worry about your English. I understand you perfectly well. Besides you know more than one language which is more than can be said for myself. It is I who should be sorry for not knowing French πŸ™‚
        Best wishes to you

      3. To you as well, have a productive Friday, i started to write long comment here, but i just deleted all, because its getting lateπŸŒΈπŸŒΌβ˜€οΈπŸ˜„i dont write long comments to everyone, but i guess you know the feeling when for some people you want to write a lot because you really have what to say, goodnight PorterπŸ§˜β€β™€οΈπŸ™πŸŒΌπŸ™‚πŸ˜„

      4. Ha I’ve done that before also and I know what you mean about writing long comments πŸ™
        Yes, I’m trying to get my son ready for bed but am too busy commenting here lol I really must go.
        Bonne nuit πŸ™‹β€β™‚οΈπŸ›ŒπŸ˜΄

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