From the title of this post you would think I was going to write about motivation. But I’m not really. It’s about something more than that.
It’s been a long day, a relenting day, a day where I am only getting the chance to write this now after being on the go for over 13 hours.
Any other working parent, especially the single ones, would testify to just how full your day can be. After you finish your paid job you come home to start the unpaid job (Unpaid only financially I might add). There’s the homework, the dinner, the dishes, the cleaning, the laundry, the constant interruptions for something or other, and, if you are so inclined, a quick workout in the gym.
As a result the only thing I am really motivated to do right now is nothing! I’m tired. I just want to put my feet up, have a cup of tea, and watch a little tv.
But here we are. The reason we are here isn’t about motivation. I find it fleeting at best. Yes, it’s easy to do the things you want to do when you feel like it, when you could be bothered, when you are feeling motivated to do them. But if you’re out there trying to improve yourself, trying to be better, trying to achieve your dreams, your goals, there is something much bigger and more powerful than motivation itself. That something is your reason why?
I know motivation is defined as ‘a reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way’ so really I’m writing about an arguably subtle difference. But as I said earlier, I’m tired. That is motivating me towards not wanting to do anything. That is telling me to just have a rest. It’s telling me I’ve done enough for the day. But it’s the reason why that has me here now.
It’s the reason why that drives me out into the little gym in my shed. It’s the reason why that has me working on other projects besides my blog. It’s the reason why that has me wanting to be the best I can be. It’s the reason why that really drives me on to better myself day after day.
Whenever I realised the importance of physical exercise in relation to not only your physicality but your mental well-being it became an integral part of my journey to being better. Thing is, with the exception of my self-defence class, I really don’t like exercise. I find it really mind-numbingly boring.
I might use that time wisely by listening to personal development audio books but using the cross-trainer, lifting those weights, is just so tedious. I would much rather be doing something else. It’s really the reason why that makes me continue to do it.
The reason why is the most powerful reason of all. It’s the thing that no matter the obstacles, no matter the difficulty, will make you push on, try that little bit harder, and for longer.
Think of it like this. Imagine your house was on fire. Its being ravaged by flames. You’re outside. You have everyone and everything you love beside you. Would you want to enter that house? Of course not. The fear of getting burned would motivate you not to go in.
Now imagine a loved one is in there…Would anything stop you from trying to get inside? Your reason why has now exceeded anything else.
The trick is to find your reason why? Find that overriding reason that will make you do what you need to do no matter what. The real driving force that will make you do it even when you don’t want to, especially when you don’t want to. Times like that are what will separate you from all the motivated people, all the people who just feel like doing something because it suits them at that time. Times like that make the real difference.
It helps to know where your priorities lie. Once you see what your true priorities are. Once you find that something that is of the utmost importance to you. Whether it’s family or finances, success or fame. It’s easier to find your why? Find your why? And you’ll find something stronger than motivation. You’ll find the most powerful thing of all.
With that said I am going to end this here. And no, I’m still not going to put my feet up even though I desperately want to. My reason why is calling for his supper!