Do It. Especially When You Don’t Want To!

From the title of this post you would think I was going to write about motivation. But I’m not really. It’s about something more than that.

It’s been a long day, a relenting day, a day where I am only getting the chance to write this now after being on the go for over 13 hours.

Any other working parent, especially the single ones, would testify to just how full your day can be. After you finish your paid job you come home to start the unpaid job (Unpaid only financially I might add). There’s the homework, the dinner, the dishes, the cleaning, the laundry, the constant interruptions for something or other, and, if you are so inclined, a quick workout in the gym.

As a result the only thing I am really motivated to do right now is nothing! I’m tired. I just want to put my feet up, have a cup of tea, and watch a little tv.

Do It. Especially When You Don't Want To!

But here we are. The reason we are here isn’t about motivation. I find it fleeting at best. Yes, it’s easy to do the things you want to do when you feel like it, when you could be bothered, when you are feeling motivated to do them. But if you’re out there trying to improve yourself, trying to be better, trying to achieve your dreams, your goals, there is something much bigger and more powerful than motivation itself. That something is your reason why?

I know motivation is defined as ‘a reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way’ so really I’m writing about an arguably subtle difference. But as I said earlier, I’m tired. That is motivating me towards not wanting to do anything. That is telling me to just have a rest. It’s telling me I’ve done enough for the day. But it’s the reason why that has me here now.

It’s the reason why that drives me out into the little gym in my shed. It’s the reason why that has me working on other projects besides my blog. It’s the reason why that has me wanting to be the best I can be. It’s the reason why that really drives me on to better myself day after day.

Whenever I realised the importance of physical exercise in relation to not only your physicality but your mental well-being it became an integral part of my journey to being better. Thing is, with the exception of my self-defence class, I really don’t like exercise. I find it really mind-numbingly boring.

I might use that time wisely by listening to personal development audio books but using the cross-trainer, lifting those weights, is just so tedious. I would much rather be doing something else. It’s really the reason why that makes me continue to do it.

The reason why is the most powerful reason of all. It’s the thing that no matter the obstacles, no matter the difficulty, will make you push on, try that little bit harder, and for longer.

Think of it like this. Imagine your house was on fire. Its being ravaged by flames. You’re outside. You have everyone and everything you love beside you. Would you want to enter that house? Of course not. The fear of getting burned would motivate you not to go in.

Now imagine a loved one is in there…Would anything stop you from trying to get inside? Your reason why has now exceeded anything else.

Do It. Especially When You Don't Want To!
Find your why?

The trick is to find your reason why? Find that overriding reason that will make you do what you need to do no matter what. The real driving force that will make you do it even when you don’t want to, especially when you don’t want to. Times like that are what will separate you from all the motivated people, all the people who just feel like doing something because it suits them at that time. Times like that make the real difference.

It helps to know where your priorities lie. Once you see what your true priorities are. Once you find that something that is of the utmost importance to you. Whether it’s family or finances, success or fame. It’s easier to find your why? Find your why? And you’ll find something stronger than motivation. You’ll find the most powerful thing of all.

With that said I am going to end this here. And no, I’m still not going to put my feet up even though I desperately want to. My reason why is calling for his supper!


18 thoughts on “Do It. Especially When You Don’t Want To!

  1. You certainly have drive and desire not to disappoint your followers. That is why you write without any expectation. May be satisfaction that is purely self generated.

    1. I am humbled by anyone who shows interest in my writing but at the same time whether my work gets read or not I put everything I can into my words. I do feel that release gives me satisfaction and helps me further myself.
      Thank you very much for your comment and insight. It is very much appreciated πŸ™‚
      Best wishes to your good self Abhijit!

    1. Thank you very much Camille! It’s heartwarming to know it’s relatable and I’m glad you enjoyed it. Very nice of you to say so.
      Have a great weekend yourself! πŸ™‚

  2. Bonsoir Porter Whenever I realised the importance of physical exercise in relation to not only your physicality but your mental well-being it became an integral part of my journey to being better. I always trying to do things what i don’t like first and doing it fast, like this i can focus what i really like, studies, job, blog, yoga and meditation, very often i run out of time, but even little physical activity can improve your mental health, when i was tired and in dark place first i focus on my physical health and only after i was able to fix my mental health. Sometimes i just want to sit and to don’t do anything, but i know time goes fast and i can’t allow for myself to sit without any point🌸always go forward only, don’t look behind and on the sides, its nothing there, only up, don’t let anyone to distract you from your dreams and your goals, Have a great, productive, inspiring and meaningful weekendπŸŒΈπŸŒˆπŸ€—πŸ™‚i also think meditation at least 15 minutes a day could help you to put everything to the right places and to give you an extra physical and mental power, voila

    1. Bonsoir. Thank you for your personal and insightful comment. I am glad to hear you have lifted yourself out of your dark place πŸ™‚ I agree that focusing on your physical health first is important before dealing with the mental side of things.
      Yes, when we have so much to do time seems to pass very quickly. Not much left for sitting around.
      I’ve always been interested in meditation I just don’t think I have the patience for it! Although my mind is generally very active and could benefit from a little serenity.
      I hope your weekend is everything and more than you expect and full of sunshine and flowers πŸ§˜β€β™‚οΈπŸŒž

    1. Thank you Gina! It makes me happy to know you found something valuable in my words. Our why’s are certainly very powerful. They can keep us going when times are tough.
      Much love to you ❀ I hope you are keeping well xo

  3. Sometimes the words of the Nike commercial “Just Do It” make a lot of sense. Many people stand still looking for ways to avoid or subvert issues they are facing or wondering “Why Me”. It is far better to face them head on and “Just Do It”. This is true both in career and family situations. It will all be worth it in the end. Allan

    1. They do indeed. Facing up to things head on is the only way to grow. It’s always worth it. Much obliged for your interaction Allan. Take care.

  4. Well Chris this is a lovely assault to my mind hahaa motivation or more than a motivation…I get what you mean it’s more a purpose! a reason for living let’s say…Some people will disagree and say we should always do it for ourselves, because we want it and stuff but this deep purpose sometimes is coming from people we love, like your son for an example…
    I can relate and give the exercise example, always hated it, always hated sports and I rather sit and dream or write or read..Now I do it because I know how healthy it is, my purpose is to stay healthy and fit even if it’s not enjoyable at all (just as you described it πŸ™‚ )
    Thank you for sharing this, inspiring and thoughtful! Sorry took me time to catch it, wanted to really read it

    1. Ha ha our minds are taking a beating these days πŸ₯ŠπŸ₯ŠπŸ˜ I love it!
      Yes, the benefits of exercise are great. Pity it’s such a pain πŸ˜€
      Don’t worry about it Huguette. Often I have to save your posts so I can get back to them later when I have more time to think about what I am reading.
      Thanks for reading!

      1. it’s a tough battle ✍πŸ₯ŠπŸ₯Š but we’re both winners πŸ™‚
        Yes I like to take my time to read and during the weekend is a bit harder
        It was a great read! thank you for sharing

      2. Indeed we are πŸ₯ŠπŸ₯ŠπŸ₯‡
        Like I’ve said before. It’s all quite time consuming. But time well spent nevertheless πŸ™‚
        Thanks for appreciating.

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.