You Can’t Buy What’s Real

I know the literal-minded are going to think this is a fallacy. They’ll wonder how can I say you can’t buy what’s real. They’ll say I bought my house. It’s real. I bought my car. Seems real to me. Some people might even have bought their husband or wife. They might say that companionship is real too.

You can buy a lot of things with money. Mostly material things. You can even buy love, or the illusion of it. They might seem real.

You can touch them, feel them, see them. But the thing that is truly real can’t be seen with the naked eye. Can’t be touched with your hands. It can be felt. But only felt from within.

So What Is Real?

The real thing I am writing about is something that transcends money. It is worth more than its weight in gold, although admittedly it has no physical weight. Maybe an emotional one. It’s love, respect, integrity, honour.

For the record, this is not an anti-wealth post. There is no denying the importance of money. We live in an economic world after all. If anything, I encourage you to go out and amass as much wealth as your heart desires. If riches are what you want, and let’s face it, most of us do. Go out there and get after them. Enjoy all the things associated with that.

Just don’t delude yourself into thinking that it will make you happy. It might temporarily. And it will certainly make some aspects of your life easier. There is no denying that. But one thing you can’t deny is that it will not satisfy your heart, your sense of being or purpose, your feeling of belonging, of who you are.

“A very disappointing outcome is always destined to happen to anyone who chases material things in search of happiness.” 

Edmond Mbiaka

You might argue that money has helped pay for your education. That the qualifications you have because of that are real. Everyone recognises them as so. But that money only paid for the course you took that provided you with the information. It paid for the teachers, the examinations.

The learning, the growth. That came from within yourself. You can’t buy the information in your head, the skills you have learned. Money doesn’t put it there. You do.

How To Get Real

Nothing of any real significance can be bought, with the exception of food and water. Not the really important things in life anyway. They have to be earned. Love, respect, a feeling of self-worthiness. These things don’t just come to you because you can throw money at them.

They have to be built. They take hard work, effort and time. There is no easy path. No amount of monetary wealth will help you get it. Or keep it. And it can be destroyed in an instant.

You might be able to buy that illusion of love for an hour or two, maybe even a few years. You might have people around you that will fake that respect because of your wealth. Like a waiter at your table in a restaurant. Like an employee on your payroll.

Where do you find what’s real?

Everything of real importance comes from within yourself. The love you have in your life? That has come from the love you have given out. The effort you put into helping it grow. The sacrifices you have made for others. Your family, friends and loved ones.

The respect you have? That’s from the respect you have shown to others. That has been cultivated by your attitude to people in the world. Respect can be commanded, not demanded. Respect that is demanded is only given through fear.

“At the end of the day, your relationships with the people in your life will be greater assets than any material things. Take time. Be present. You’ll thank yourself for it later.” 

Vironika Tugaleva

And all those nice things you have. Those things you’ve bought. Are they going to snuggle up to you on the sofa? Are they going to fill your heart with the warmth of love? Are they going to ask you for valued advice? Are they really going to give you true satisfaction?

The beauty of the ‘real’ things is that they are available to everyone. You, me, anyone who is alive. It doesn’t matter how much, or how little, you have in material worth. How big or small your house is. How much money you have in your bank account. You can’t buy them. Like I’ve said. You can’t buy what’s real.

Real things don’t even cost money. The only price you might have to pay is some self-sacrifice. A little time. A little effort. A little consideration. Be selfless instead of selfish.

And the rewards those ‘real’ things give you are immeasurable and potentially timeless. Their value is of the greatest worth. A worth that can’t be bought. A worth that is more ‘real’ than anything.

So you can’t buy what’s real. But what’s real is something we all can have. Appreciate the real things you have in your life right now for they are what make you truly rich.


25 thoughts on “You Can’t Buy What’s Real

  1. Hello there, writing from phone now, when i do it from phone it i’m not sure of comment works100%material things makes us happy temporary, we always need something new again and again until it wont does any effect anymore, real happiness is to live life meaningfuly and to enjoy what you do, some rich people are happy some not, is depend what do you have inside you and what makes you happy🤗☀️🌺

    1. Hi Ilona. Yes, so true. Having money doesn’t mean you will have happiness. It is all about what’s inside and living a meaningful life.
      Hope you are keeping well 😊

      1. Is that a ‘soon’ where you look at the clock two hours later and realise you are still on WordPress 😂
        Goodnight to you too! 😊

  2. Let me tell you that everybody will agree with you but very few really apply this 🙂
    Another important topic and not fallacy at all, we always hear that money can’t buy happiness, very true! Money is so important to have a good life, to pay your bills, have some stuff, clothes, furniture, all cool and important by the way, because when you’re starving or when you can’t have things, you’ll always wonder what it’s like to have them! We all want to be beautiful and have things, branded clothes even if we say we don’t care… But if this not going side by side with peace of mind, confidence coming from within not from the outside and things, real happiness, people who love you genuinely, gratitude, you’ll never be happy…This is your point and you’re very right! The more you get stuff, the more you need more, until one day you discover that these things are not making you happy and filling the hole in you, this is why we should know how important is to build ourselves, our inside and enforce our spirit and this money cannot buy! As no one can enforce it, just us, how much we are willing to improve, to receive
    Thank you for sharing, as always I wrote you one page hahah don’t block me 😀

    1. Ha ha I would block you if I knew where the button was. If it’s near the spam box I’ll never find it 😂😂
      Yes, money is important. And we all do like to have certain things. I guess it’s about realising we need to find a balance between the inner and outer.
      I think I was reading your post as you were reading mine ha ha
      Goodnight Huguette. Hope you have a peaceful sleep 😊

  3. You can’t buy the information in your head, the skills you have learned. Money doesn’t put it there. You do.”

    you should put this in a book as your first chapter and everyone will want to read the rest, I am grateful and thankful to have stumbled upon your writing, you make sense and give me so much courage to go on. you are an amazing light.

    1. Ah Gina. You always say such nice things and give me great hope! I am happy that you get much out of my humble writings and to be called ‘an amazing light’ is the greatest compliment I have ever received. Thank you so much. I feel honoured by such a statement.
      I think this is the last of today’s comments so I’m going to wish you and your family all the best. Much love to you and keep that light of yours shining bright!

  4. My time is the thing I am the most selfish with. Yet, when I let loose of it, give it to others, that is when I gain my best rewards. Thanks for posting.

    1. You’re welcome Deborah. Time is one of the difficult ones to give. We don’t get it back after all! But those sacrifices have the best rewards!
      Best wishes to you and thanks for reading 🙂

  5. Another great post Chris!😊
    No doubt money is important. We all need it in order live a comfortable life. But it’s also important to know when to stop chasing money and start living. I know so many people in my family who are just busy accumulating money and postponing happiness into future. As if there is a surety that they will live till retirement. 😁
    I don’t like the idea of investing in material things. I have always been a kind of person who prefer to invest my time and energy on experiences and people. This year I decided to work on personal development and self care. And trust me, after investing more than 3 months on myself I can say, I have never been more happy and content in my life. Waking up to this feeling of content everyday is priceless ❤
    I hope your day went well!😊

    1. Thank you so much! I’m glad you appreciated it 🙂 I’ve never understood that mentality of constantly accumulating money at the cost of living. Sure by the time you get to spend it, if you’re still alive as you said, you’re probably not fit enough to enjoy it. Getting the right balance is more important.
      I can relate to your investment. I know for my son I’ve always been about creating good memories.
      Same on the personal development front. In actual fact I don’t even recognise myself from this time last year. The changes have been amazing. My circumstances may not have changed much but my attitude to them and life in general is so much better.
      Fair play to you for doing so and Im am glad you have found happiness and contentedness 🙂
      My day has being going great actually. Thank you very much. I hope yours has been just as good, if not better 🙂

      1. Good morning Chris 🌞 Happy to know that you’re creating happy memories with your son. These are the moments he’ll cherish for his lifetime😊 More happiness and love to both of you❤
        On personal development front, you’ve beautifully expressed what I’ve been experiencing as well. “My circumstances may not have changed much but my attitude to them and life in general is so much better”. I have grown so much in just one year. It’s just amazing ! 😄
        Much love to you😊

      2. Auch, thank you very much. I think fondly of anyone who wishes happiness and love to my son. Very much appreciated 😊
        It’s great to hear you are feeling the same 😊 It is truly amazing!
        Here’s to further growth and happiness. Hope you have a great day 🤗

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