The Easy Life? Is There Such A Thing?

The easy life. A lot of us think we want it. You probably even dream of having it. But is there such a thing? Does it even exist?

We all have this image of an ideal easy life. A life where you have untold amounts of wealth and spend your days doing whatever you feel like doing. Living your life like a holiday. Lazing on a beach. Letting someone else do all your work. Just sitting back and relaxing your life away.

First off. I think there is no such thing as easy. Easy is an illusion. Matter of fact I would argue it is more of a delusion. Anything that comes easy has no real reward, no real benefit. Nothing is learned from easy.

There might be the lucky few who win financial jackpots, like lottery winners. They think they have it made. Think they have found the easy life. But what happens? Some lose that money because they weren’t financially savvy. Some have their marriages fall apart. Some suffer from family breakdowns. Some fall victim to addiction.

The problem being that money doesn’t solve some people’s problems. It might only magnify them. Their life doesn’t just magically become ‘easy’ because of it. Just Google unlucky lottery winners to get an idea.

‘Easy’ was all I ever wanted. I lived my life the most comfortable and easy way possible. Seeking to do as little as possible, and as often. I thought that was the way life should be.

I spent countless hours smoking marijuana, watching television, surfing the net. I worked jobs I had no interest in. And for a minimal wage. I got by. Always took the path of least resistance. I put little effort into everything. Being a good parent being the only real exception.

What did I get for my efforts, or lack thereof ? Nothing of note. If anything I only lost out. I lost my wife. I’ve never succeeded at anything. I never really felt happy or content. That supposed easy life I had was anything but.

So what about the people who we think are living the easy life? The millionaires, billionaires, those with untold wealth. Well for a start do you think their lives are easy? I can assuredly say that everyone of those people has worked hard and continues to do so.

Their lives might be considered easier than they used to be. Maybe they have private jets, chauffeur driven cars, housemaids, nannies. Maybe when then go on holidays they can stay in five-star hotels, take more than a few weeks off.

But the fact remains, you just have read about them to see, most of them are up at dawn’s first light, maybe even before. Many work long hours. 9 to 5 doesn’t exist to them. Without a doubt they have put a lot of time and effort into getting where they are. It certainly hasn’t been easy.

With all that said it is possible to have an easier life. Not easy. Just easier.

Paradoxically it requires you to work hard. Like the aforementioned millionaires and billionaires. The thing about working hard. The thing I wish I had learned years ago. When you start working hard, putting more time and effort into things, it actually gets a bit easier. Makes your life a bit easier. Oh you will always have problems to overcome. There will be highs and lows. Such is the nature of life. But the more consistent you are at working hard. Both in your career and your life. The less hard it seems to be.

For example, long before I was married and had my son even doing a 9 to 5 job was an effort. Before that going to school from 9 to 3 was a struggle. Doing anything remotely like work in the evening after those was out of the question. And don’t dare suggesting doing work at the weekends. It just seemed like it required too much time and effort. I had the attitude of just wanting to enjoy my life. To do what I wanted with the time I had.

Little did I realise then that the work you put into whatever it is you want to do might be harder at the time but in the long run, in the years later, it makes things a bit easier. It gives you more options. Maybe lets you find a job that provides a greater amount of financial stability. A job you get more satisfaction out of. Lets you lead the type of lifestyle you want.

Not only that but as you put more time and effort into the things you need to do you will actually find doing those things easier. You might even find you are capable of doing more than you imagined, than you even thought possible.

Currently I am a working single parent. I come home from work and spend a few hours doing household work, dinner, dishes, laundry, cleaning. Then it’s out to my little gym for a quick workout. Then, depending on what my son is doing, I either spend time with him or work on my blog or towards my other goals. If I don’t get my blogging/goal time, I wait until he falls asleep, then get back up and make sure some work gets done on them.

If you had asked me to do all that, even as early as just over a year ago, I would have been exasperated. I would have complained. Made excuses as to why that wasn’t possible. My first excuse would have been that I had been working all day. That I needed some time to chill.

That was the ‘me’ who wanted what I thought was an ‘easy’ life. That ‘me’ honestly didn’t have a clue. Didn’t realise the benefits of working hard. Both for the moment and for the future.

Now I not only relish the thought of what I have to do. I wish there was more I could get done. It never seems to be enough. I’m doing more than ever. Still I want to do more.

So please. Don’t learn your lessons the hard way. There is no such thing as an ‘easy’ life. It doesn’t exist. You can make your life easier but it takes hard work. But that hard work doesn’t seem as hard the more you do it.

It’s up to you and the life you want to lead. Just remember. ‘Easy’ doesn’t get you anything.


27 thoughts on “The Easy Life? Is There Such A Thing?

  1. Well said. Things that come easily are seldom valued. There is nothing better than aching muscles after an exercise workout, pointing to something tangible that you have done and saying (even to yourself), I did that or watching your children grow and succeed, because you gave them the right tools and pointed the way. Even in retirement, there is effort, Effort makes whatever “ease” you manage feel all the sweeter. Allan

    1. Thank you Allan. I agree. Things easy come by are rarely valued.
      Having achieved something through your own efforts, no matter how small, always provides such a sense of satisfaction.
      I appreciate you taking the time to comment. Best wishes to you and I hope you are keeping well. Chris

  2. Keeping well and enjoying the slow approach of spring. Awaiting visitors and a ski trip to the Rockies. I have not been skiing for abut 3 years, so this will be my accomplishment. Lasting a day on the hill at the age of 65. I look forward to the aches and pains with a smile. Stay well Chris. Allan

    1. Am glad. Also enjoying the approach of spring.
      Oh very nice. I hope there will be some blog posts regarding the Rockies. I never skied myself so the fact you can even do that, nevermind the age, is already an accomplishment in my eyes.
      Keep smiling Allan ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. I completely agree with you, there is no such thing as an ‘easy life’, but with hard work life just gets easier.
    Thanks for sharing this with us. ๐Ÿ˜Š

    1. You’re welcome Ellen. Glad you appreciated it ๐Ÿ˜Š
      Do think it’s quite funny that hard work makes things easier. Life is never straightforward it seems ๐Ÿ™‚
      Best wishes to you ๐Ÿ˜Š

  4. Sounds like you are very busy, when you have kids is life changing, you may wont have time anymore for hard work, because the child is more important and the attention of parents is more important, than a new toy, life is never easy, because in today world, people like to make it hard to themselves, they have to big wishes on material things, but i believe if you focus more on being a good person and you start to love yourself, maybe even the material things you can achive if you really need them, i need my statues๐Ÿ˜†

  5. I completely agree! Easy definitely doesnโ€™t exist! We must work hard to get an easier life but working hard definitely pays off in a longer term. But we also must not forget to enjoy the rewards otherwise is only working. ๐Ÿ˜Š

    1. Glad you agree ๐Ÿ˜Š
      What you said is very important also. It can’t all be about hard work. A healthy balance is needed.
      I appreciate you taking the time to comment and hope you are keeping well. Best wishes to you ๐Ÿ˜Š

  6. Good morning Chris, hope youโ€™re good today, better than the past days ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Thank you for sharing! I guess you said it all when you said โ€œSo please donโ€™t learn your lessons the hard way. There is no such thing as an โ€˜easyโ€™ life. โ€œ
    I believe we always learn the hard way and lucky are those who understand this game and this life before they start saying โ€œwhat ifโ€ โ€œI wish I knewโ€ etcโ€ฆI mean if you want to learn, there are millions precedents that went through stuff, wrote about stuff, told us stuff, but we insist to do it our way! This is why we learn the hard way

    I agree, no such thing as easy life but sometimes as you said itโ€™s easier…Thereโ€™s should be time to work, to rest to have funโ€ฆto take care of the people we love, we must manage, if we didnโ€™t, even if weโ€™re not doing anything at all, weโ€™ll not be able to fulfill all these thingsโ€ฆ
    The most important is put a goal, aim, so our efforts lead to some place, to the place we want to be otherwise even having a very hard life wonโ€™t helpโ€ฆOr at least wonโ€™t be fruitful as we want it to be, as we dreamed and wished, many people can relate.
    I love that you mentioned millionaires; I agree their life is not easy and some work hard on daily basis to maintain this fortune and about the spoiled kids born with a golden spoon, well eventually they will learn their lessons, sooner or later.
    Hope your life experiences will be reachable to many people so they can read and learn and probably they can change their life before itโ€™s too late
    Have a great day ๐Ÿ˜Š

    1. Hi Huguette. Thanks for the hope, all good here ๐Ÿ™‚ Hope it’s the same for yourself. You’re right. It’s often our stubborness that prevents us from learning our lessons before life teaches them to us the hard way.
      I agree. Having a goal, an ultimate aim, or many, is very important. It helps give us direction. Then it’s just a matter of working hard and remembering what’s important to us along the way.
      I think regardless of our backgrounds, or wealth, we will eventually learn the lessons we need to. Better sooner than later in my opinion.
      And you can’t force someone to learn. You just have to hope that they will learn in good time.
      Appreciate your comments as usual Huguette. Much love to you ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. Good evening Chris, glad youโ€™re good ๐Ÿ˜Š
        Thank you for your reply, yes sure we canโ€™t force anyone even if we tried…
        And weโ€™re all the same, but gave the wealthy people as an example because they usually have things the easy way…
        My pleasure always to read your content and communicate with you ๐Ÿ˜Š
        Have a good night

      2. Good evening Huguette ๐Ÿ˜Š
        Likewise, it is both a pleasure and a lovely bit of mental stimulation ๐Ÿ™‚
        Currently looking at a post I’ve written about parents, children and separation. Debating whether to post as it’s a bit harsher than usual ๐Ÿค”
        Hope you have a good night too!

      3. Ha ha brilliant effect to have! It’s a real seize the moment effect.
        Oh I think you will lol
        Much love Huguette. Goodnight to you ๐Ÿ˜Š

      4. Yes always been passionate about the truth ๐Ÿ™‚
        Great post Chris! Well done really and wasnโ€™t harsh at all ๐Ÿ‘
        Much love to you, Iโ€™m sure you feel better now ๐Ÿ˜Š good night ๐Ÿ’ค

      5. Great thing to be passionate about. The best I’d say.
        Thanks Huguette. Had other things to write but that was bugging me after a conversation I had this morning lol
        Much love to you too ๐Ÿค—

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