The easy life. A lot of us think we want it. You probably even dream of having it. But is there such a thing? Does it even exist?
We all have this image of an ideal easy life. A life where you have untold amounts of wealth and spend your days doing whatever you feel like doing. Living your life like a holiday. Lazing on a beach. Letting someone else do all your work. Just sitting back and relaxing your life away.
First off. I think there is no such thing as easy. Easy is an illusion. Matter of fact I would argue it is more of a delusion. Anything that comes easy has no real reward, no real benefit. Nothing is learned from easy.
There might be the lucky few who win financial jackpots, like lottery winners. They think they have it made. Think they have found the easy life. But what happens? Some lose that money because they weren’t financially savvy. Some have their marriages fall apart. Some suffer from family breakdowns. Some fall victim to addiction.
The problem being that money doesn’t solve some people’s problems. It might only magnify them. Their life doesn’t just magically become ‘easy’ because of it. Just Google unlucky lottery winners to get an idea.
‘Easy’ was all I ever wanted. I lived my life the most comfortable and easy way possible. Seeking to do as little as possible, and as often. I thought that was the way life should be.
I spent countless hours smoking marijuana, watching television, surfing the net. I worked jobs I had no interest in. And for a minimal wage. I got by. Always took the path of least resistance. I put little effort into everything. Being a good parent being the only real exception.
What did I get for my efforts, or lack thereof ? Nothing of note. If anything I only lost out. I lost my wife. I’ve never succeeded at anything. I never really felt happy or content. That supposed easy life I had was anything but.
So what about the people who we think are living the easy life? The millionaires, billionaires, those with untold wealth. Well for a start do you think their lives are easy? I can assuredly say that everyone of those people has worked hard and continues to do so.
Their lives might be considered easier than they used to be. Maybe they have private jets, chauffeur driven cars, housemaids, nannies. Maybe when then go on holidays they can stay in five-star hotels, take more than a few weeks off.
But the fact remains, you just have read about them to see, most of them are up at dawn’s first light, maybe even before. Many work long hours. 9 to 5 doesn’t exist to them. Without a doubt they have put a lot of time and effort into getting where they are. It certainly hasn’t been easy.
With all that said it is possible to have an easier life. Not easy. Just easier.
Paradoxically it requires you to work hard. Like the aforementioned millionaires and billionaires. The thing about working hard. The thing I wish I had learned years ago. When you start working hard, putting more time and effort into things, it actually gets a bit easier. Makes your life a bit easier. Oh you will always have problems to overcome. There will be highs and lows. Such is the nature of life. But the more consistent you are at working hard. Both in your career and your life. The less hard it seems to be.
For example, long before I was married and had my son even doing a 9 to 5 job was an effort. Before that going to school from 9 to 3 was a struggle. Doing anything remotely like work in the evening after those was out of the question. And don’t dare suggesting doing work at the weekends. It just seemed like it required too much time and effort. I had the attitude of just wanting to enjoy my life. To do what I wanted with the time I had.
Little did I realise then that the work you put into whatever it is you want to do might be harder at the time but in the long run, in the years later, it makes things a bit easier. It gives you more options. Maybe lets you find a job that provides a greater amount of financial stability. A job you get more satisfaction out of. Lets you lead the type of lifestyle you want.
Not only that but as you put more time and effort into the things you need to do you will actually find doing those things easier. You might even find you are capable of doing more than you imagined, than you even thought possible.
Currently I am a working single parent. I come home from work and spend a few hours doing household work, dinner, dishes, laundry, cleaning. Then it’s out to my little gym for a quick workout. Then, depending on what my son is doing, I either spend time with him or work on my blog or towards my other goals. If I don’t get my blogging/goal time, I wait until he falls asleep, then get back up and make sure some work gets done on them.
If you had asked me to do all that, even as early as just over a year ago, I would have been exasperated. I would have complained. Made excuses as to why that wasn’t possible. My first excuse would have been that I had been working all day. That I needed some time to chill.
That was the ‘me’ who wanted what I thought was an ‘easy’ life. That ‘me’ honestly didn’t have a clue. Didn’t realise the benefits of working hard. Both for the moment and for the future.
Now I not only relish the thought of what I have to do. I wish there was more I could get done. It never seems to be enough. I’m doing more than ever. Still I want to do more.
So please. Don’t learn your lessons the hard way. There is no such thing as an ‘easy’ life. It doesn’t exist. You can make your life easier but it takes hard work. But that hard work doesn’t seem as hard the more you do it.
It’s up to you and the life you want to lead. Just remember. ‘Easy’ doesn’t get you anything.