We all have something we are not happy with. Something in our lives we might wish to be different. It might be ourselves. It might be the situation we are in. It doesn’t matter what it is because we all have the power to do something about it. The power that’s in you.
You have the power to change. All it takes is a decision. And then action. Instead of waiting for a change. Choose to be the agent of that change.
It was just over a year ago that the life I had known for almost 10 years ended. It was traumatic. I was devastated. My son was devastated. For weeks all I could do was cry.
I cried almost every night when he was asleep. I cried when I was making the dinner, doing household duties, driving to work. Matter of fact almost every time I was by myself I was crying.
It was a Thursday morning when my wife, my son’s mother, left our shared home. She seemed a bit off. I asked her was she alright. She said she was leaving. Then she left.
Our son called for his breakfast from the living room as I struggled from the pain in my chest, reeled from the heartbreaking news, and just wanted to crumble on the kitchen floor. I was hurt. I was afraid of how it was going to affect our son. I was afraid of what the future now held.
I don’t blame her for anything. Yes, I was saddened that she just gave up and walked away. But I don’t blame her.
Back then, as in many years previous, I was in a deep rut of my own making. I had no spirit, no belief, no energy, no ambition. I was a negative space.
I was spending at least £50 a week on marijuana. I did very little. Oh I went to work and made sure to spend quality time with our son but other than that I just watched tv, movies, surfed the net. Passed time doing nothing of importance.
I was also sick a lot. I had stomach problems, bowel problems. There was nearly always some sort of issue with my health. Physical and mental.
The first while after she left was a very low period of time. If I had to pick a colour for it. It would be black. Not just ordinary black. Vantablack. The one that absorbs practically all visible light. The one that doesn’t really reflect any back into the world.
Somewhere along the way, I can’t pinpoint exactly, but something changed. A determination arose. A strength and power I had never felt previously. A conviction, a belief.
Like a cartoon character from the 80s called He-Man I realised something profound. He used to transform from a mild prince into a strongman with superhuman strength after he held aloft his magic sword and said: “I have the power”. I didn’t need a magic sword. I just felt it within myself. I had the power. The same way you have the power. The power that lies within you. That lies within us all.
The power to be the change in your life.
As I am writing this the amount of change in my life has been astonishing. I am now a person who lives with purpose. I exercise regularly, almost daily. I don’t smoke any marijuana (after a 20 plus year habit), I’ve only been sick once (It was bug going around), I am learning Krav Maga (self-defence), I think I can consider myself a blogger (I’ve written over 40,000 words in 3 months), I actually have goals that I want to achieve (I never did).
The best of it is, I feel this is only the beginning. I’m not absorbing all the light. I’m shining it out there instead.
Now my situation hasn’t really changed. In some ways it is a bit more difficult. I’m now a working single father trying to raise my son with very little outside support. A son who sometimes still struggles with his mother’s departure. My financial situation is fragile.
I know it’s ok though. It will always be ok. Actually, it will be more than ok. I’m going to make sure of that.
Look, the reason why I am telling you all this is to show you that your power to change is a powerful thing. You don’t have to wait for it to come to you. It’s there already just waiting to be called upon.
If it’s something about yourself you are not happy with start taking steps to do something about it. If it’s something that is outside or beyond your control. There is still an answer. If you can’t change what’s without. Change what’s within instead. Change your attitude. Change the way you think about things. Change what you must. It’s all possible.
All it takes is the right belief, the right mindset, then the right actions on that. It won’t always work out, at least how you hoped. You’ll still have days where it feels a bit too much. Days that are tougher than others. There will be constant challenges and difficulties.
In actual fact if you’re doing things right there should be constant challenges and difficulties. Change is possible. I never said it would be easy.
But just remember. Nothing is going to face you that you can’t handle. Just find your strength. Find your courage. Find the power. The power that is you!