Why Adversity Isn’t All Bad

We’ve all got it in our lives. That something we have to overcome. The challenge, the obstacle, the barrier in the way.

Each person’s is unique to themselves. It’s your own problem. A problem that can only be surmounted by you.

From an outsiders view we have a tendency to downplay some people’s adversity. That difficult or unpleasant event or situation for one person may not seem so bad for another.

We have this attitude of looking at someone’s issue and saying: “Is that all your worried about?”. “I wish I had your problems. “Look what I have to deal with”. That attitude is dismissive, disrespectful and ignorant.

If someone is facing a problem which to them feels like the biggest issue in the world. It is.

It doesn’t matter what you or I think about their problem. It doesn’t even matter if we don’t even think it is a problem at all. The fact it is a problem for them is all we need to know.

Of course there are some problems that would be difficult no matter what your perspective.

Why Adversity Isn't All Bad

I read a blog post this week that was the most moving, heartbreaking, and the most inspiring thing I have ever read. It was a blogger telling the story of a part of her life. The things she had to endure as a child. Things that no child or adult should really have to endure. An adversity we could all agree on. One we would all have difficulty overcoming. If we could have at all.

Do you know what the beauty of it was though? At the end of the post this blogger was speaking of hope, inspiration. That child she was, the child she described as a ‘lonely bird with no wings’, had blossomed into a soaring eagle.

I have communicated quite often with this woman. She is strong, direct, truthful, whilst still being caring, compassionate, understanding. She is inspiration personified.

Why I am telling you? It’s simple really. It’s to show you that whatever adversity you have to overcome. Whatever challenge lies ahead of you. It’s not all bad. It’s actually way more than that.

Yes, whatever your issue is, whatever you have to face, whatever you have to deal with, can be really difficult. It might feel like it pushes you to the edge. It might feel like it will break you. It might have broken you a bit already.

But, and it is a very big but, when you come out the other side, when that adversity has been surmounted, when it is falling behind into nothing but memory. It will leave you with a gift.

Why Adversity Isn't All Bad
Adversity has a gift for you!

It will give you a greater strength. A strength that has always been within you but that maybe you just weren’t aware you had. It will provide you with a greater understanding, a clearer insight, and a feeling of self-belief. It will give you power.

It will give you more than it has taken away. A gift not just for you but something you can share with the rest of the world.

Some adversity we create ourselves. Some arises from within ourselves. Some is thrust upon us. It doesn’t matter where it comes from.

It matters what you do with it. How you deal with it.

You will learn from it. It will help you grow. It will help turn you into something more beautiful than you already are. It will help you become your own eagle and fly.


P.s. Here is a link to the blog in question. It’s a two parter. I highly recommend you read it. Be warned. It is quite harrowing in places but definitely worth reading to the end.






47 thoughts on “Why Adversity Isn’t All Bad

    1. Thank you very much πŸ™‚
      I’m glad you got something from it. There’s no greater honour than hearing my words have uplifted you and gave you some motivation. I’m humbled πŸ™
      Hope you have a great day ahead Cezane.
      Best of hope and wishes to you πŸ™‚

  1. Oh damn Chris! I couldn’t imagine you will mention me in this post and speak highly about me, I’m really touched and it brought tears to my eyes! (Which is rare for the cold heart reputation I have haha) I really appreciate you taking time to write about my posts and my personality in a lovely and overwhelming way <3 😒😒

    How life is really weird, yesterday afternoon I was really down and pissed because someone belittled what I went through, spent my time asking myself why I even care, but still I couldn’t but be sad and angry that someone belittle other’s pain while they rant on their blogs the entire time about other misuse and stuff…I asked why! And today I read all this appraisal and words, thank you Chris you really made my day! ❀😊

    I want to recommend another post for me that also compatible with how you started your blog:
    β€œI wish I had your problems. β€œLook what I have to deal with”. That attitude is dismissive, disrespectful and ignorant.” Which is totally right! I never did it despite all my problems and when it comes to me I fought it and the below post is a bit relative

    Thank you again for this power of positivity and appreciation that is capable to change someone’s day and probably life, for the message you wanted to spread and it’s a great message, hope many birds will realize that they are eagles, hope they will spread their wings and just fly!

    Thank you for the love and respect Chris! Much love and respect to you <3 πŸ™ŒπŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

    1. Ah Huguette ☺ Firstly the selfish bit…I’m so happy to have made your day. That thought fills me with warmth and love. Thank you for saying that 😊❀
      Now the important stuff…Any love and respect for you has been earned by you. It’s because of everything you have said. The way you are. That’s all your own doing. You have created all that for me. So thank you πŸ™πŸ˜Š I love having people like you in my life 😊😊
      It also annoys me to think someone belittled your experience. Seriously. That tells me more about them than you. They are the person with issues. Don’t let them put their issues on you.
      In case you didn’t notice that post you inspired me to write also inspired someone else. They said it uplifted them and gave them the motivation they needed today. How great is that!? Such is the power of your story and message!
      Who do you want to remember most. The negative person who wants to bring you down to their level…or the person you have indirectly helped to feel better about themselves. Have encouraged to get motivated and enjoy their day. Seems no choice to me. An eagle or a snake?!
      Now, going to check out your other comment. Be back soon πŸ˜‚
      P.s. Sorry for making you tear up. Don’t want to ruin that reputation of yours hahaha
      Much love Huguette ❀😊

      1. Selfish? This is the kindest and noblest attitude ever!
        Again I’m grateful for the additional uplifting words and inspiration! Even if you believe it’s my doing, I believe that only few appreciate and give such high appraisal…! 😊
        About this person, yes it’s about them but I couldn’t but feel annoyed and angry…I’m good now I guess, and really appreciate your words! I feel normal after questioning that it’s probably me, I should understand people and stuff like that…And after your question I guess I will choose the person I indirectly motivated and the many people that were inspired of course and I really thank you for all this positivity and inspiration and kindnessπŸ€—
        Don’t worry, nobody saw me hahaa
        Much love to you as well <3

      2. Haha If anyone did see you I’m sure you just had something in your eye πŸ˜‰
        Noble? I don’t think that’s a word I’ve ever heard applied to myself. My friends would laugh. They’ve called me many things. But they’re like your friends…devils πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        I know what you mean. When someone says something hurtful we first think it’s our fault. We question ourselves. My way of dealing with it is to always consider the source first. Once you see where something is coming from it makes it easier to deal with.
        I’ve been listening to a good book this last few days. It talks about what you put out to the world affects what comes back. You’re getting positivity, inspiration and kindness because you put it out there to begin with.
        I’m glad to be on the receiving side of that. Thank you 😊
        Much love right back at you ❀☺
        (I don’t even worry about posting heart emojis anymore πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚).

      3. Well you’re noble here and probably your friends are jerks hahha they are devils so it’s the same. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ (hope they’re not reading)
        My friends are so bad as well when they laugh at my stories and my short temper but they can’t live without me, I know that so I let them make fun 😊
        Exactly how you stated it, I thought maybe I should change my perspective! Then I didn’t want to anymore, all was clear especially that I was always kind, supportive and thoughtful to this person, I only gave positivity and inspiration so my prediction is jealousy maybe,…or other issues but I’m not therapist, I can respect but I don’t accept any mockery!
        Hahaa yes I’m cautious about the heart emoji, you’re in the safety zone now haha
        Thank you Chris much love always <3 <3😊

      4. Haha my friends do read my blog. And I know one of them definitely reads the comments πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Don’t worry though. Here the more friendly you are with someone the more you call them names and give them shit πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ we’re a strange breed haha
        Oh no. You’ve a short temper as well. Oh dear. I know what that’s like haha
        Well some people you are better off without. And I well believe you won’t accept mockery. You shouldn’t anyway!
        Funny to hear your cautious about the heart emoji but now that you’ve said that β€β€β€β€πŸ’–πŸ’•πŸ’“πŸ’–β€πŸ’—β£πŸ’žπŸ’ hahaπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        It’s been a real joy today. On here and at home. Feeling all warm and fuzzy 😊
        Much love always to you too Huguette πŸ€—πŸ€—

      5. Oups hahah πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚glad they are strange and they love rough compliments then OMG! πŸ˜‚
        Good morning and hope you’re having a good Sunday ☺
        I have a short temper but I really never start a problem or a fight…and I count until 10..But then boom! Hahah πŸ˜‚
        Look at all these hearts hahahah let’s re-consider the safety zone 😎😎 hahhaha
        Thank you Chris and so glad to know your day was warm and fuzzy ☺
        Thank you for the love and hearts ❀☺☺
        Much love to you πŸ’–

      6. Ha ha The rough compliments is an Irish thing. The better the friend the more you let them off with their insults πŸ˜‚
        So you actually count to 10 then πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ That’s about 9 more than me haha
        I could imagine you kicking off. God help the recipient! But I guess in that situation they deserve whatever they get πŸ₯ŠπŸ˜‚
        Today has been going well. I hope yours has been equally as good if not better.
        Ah love and hearts all round then 😊
        Much love as always Huguette β€πŸ€—

      7. It’s an Irish thing then hahha 😊😊 I believe it’s everywhere, because the way I speak with my best friends, I never do with anyone else πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        hahaha so no counting for you! Some people deserve more! I don’t have the physical power but I don’t care, I attack haaha
        Great to know your day was great, mine was good as well, hope you’ll have a good evening ahead 😊❀
        Much love to you 😊😊

      8. Ha ha that’s good to know. You and your friends would get on great here then!
        Haha physical power? I’m in the same boat as you. I’m a short, skinny person. Everyone else is bigger. I don’t care either haha
        Glad you’re having a good day.
        Much love to you 😊😊
        P.s. thought I had sent this message earlier. Guests arrived. Sorry

      9. Hahah I’m a woman! Even if I tried I can’t beat a man but don’t care either
        Oh yes will do great, I curse them the entire time πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        No worries, hope the good kind of guests 😊 Have a great time
        Much love 😊

      10. Haha was just replying to this when I saw another notification from you pop up πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ playing chess again are we πŸ˜‚
        Yes, you are a woman…but you’re badass!! πŸ’ͺ
        I can imagine you’d be creative with your insults hahaha
        Oh yes, lovely guests. My ex wife’s brother and his wife. I’ve always got on with them and they still call round now and then which is very nice of them.
        Much love Huguette ☺

      11. I replied to that too but I will just say thank you now for considering me a badass hahah and I can be very creative with insults, unfortunately πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

      12. I’m trying so hard to keep up with comments here…and failing badly haha
        Yes Huguette. Bad to the bone 😁
        Creative insults are the best type haha
        Flip, just when I think I’m almost caught up on comments another one comes through hahaha
        Not even going to sign off on this one. I know there’s more πŸ˜‚

      13. hahaha This is wordpress mistake! you’re doing great! lot of progress with typing, the comment I guess that vanished also when your son was laughing so I told you that you should work on your typing skills 😁
        You can say that cursing runs in the family πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ oh damn we’re creative πŸ˜‚

      14. Haha I’m on mobile so my typing skills consist off one finger at the moment πŸ˜‚
        Still trying to get caught up on comments. Have spent hours on it today hahaha
        You’ll have to stop commenting, posting, or getting award nominations πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        I’d say between the Arabic, French and English you’d be very creative alright.
        Haha family get togethers must be interesting then.
        Much love always Huguette ☺❀

      15. Good morning Chris, I can imagine the hectic moments of running here and there to comment and with one finger hahaha πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        OMG I might really stop for good, it’s consuming me for real! I’m sure you can tell by now
        We will find a formula so it stops to consume us but without someone getting sad haaha
        Arabic is really enough, there are plenty of words and each family member contribute with something new πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        Moving to another comment haha Much love to you as well <3

      16. Good morning Huguette 😊
        Gees, tell me about it. I’m spending more time commenting than writing posts at the moment πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ My finger can’t take it and I’m exhausted haha
        Problem is I want to reply to the comments. Really enjoy the interaction 😊
        Haha yes, we need to work out a system so no one feels hurt or left out.
        Arabic enough?! How many curse words do you have? Haha I imagine there’s a lot of donkey stuff going by that saying you said once about brainless people πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        Haha I’m sure you have some comments to catch up on. I was up til 12:30 last night replying. Gee whizz haha
        Much love to you too 😊❀. Hope you have a great day! Gotta get off my phone and actually get ready for work haha

      17. OMG you’re an expert now hahaa an immediate reply πŸ˜‚
        Tell me about it! I even made posts from my comments hahaha
        I want that too! But one doesn’t know how much time it really takes until you do it
        Start working on that system and keep me posted 😊
        Donkey is not a real curse, it’s for …oh you know hahahah πŸ˜‚
        Also slept after midnight, I’m also preparing another nomination OMG! we have 2 hours difference I guess we’re 2 hours ahead of you

        What a respectful work, no phones allowed! Here they chat the entire day and no one even cares
        Have a productive day Chris and much love always <3 😊

      18. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ I think that reply was an aberration. According to this time stamp you sent this message 15hrs ago. Only getting replying now πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        How immediate is that?! hahaha
        If you’re making posts from comments you’ll haves years worth of material…And just from the last few days πŸ˜‚
        Struggling to keep up. Obviously haha
        Can they clone people yet? Might be the only solution πŸ˜‚
        Haha the donkey thing. Think that must be a worldwide thing hahaha
        After midnight as well πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ we’re cursed I tell you…cursed πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        That work of yours doesn’t sound too bad. Lucky you.
        So there’s actually one comment left. Might get to sleep by 1am hahaha.
        Much love Huguette ❀

      19. Aberration OMG I thought that also πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        Oh 15 hours is great average, hope we’ll be able to keep it that way hahah
        I have some huge library OMG not having time to even write a decent post!
        They must clone people, Keane Reeves movie: Replica well he did it perfectly! I want that! πŸ™‚
        Donkey is worldwide indeed, the poor animal I don’t know why he got this reputation πŸ˜‚
        Yes I’m really grateful for my space at work, I always think it’s a blessing despite everything, now I’m doing something I really love, writing, expressing interacting! I wouldn’t be able to do that if I was in another work but I’m working here since a very long time so…
        I slept yesterday around 1:00AM even though I stopped using my phone before midnight but my brain couldn’t stop working :/
        Much love to you and moving to the comment πŸ˜€

  2. Aah…two of my favourite bloggers in one post. Finally!!!πŸ˜„ Just yesterday I was thinking that if I were to choose just 4-5 blogs to keep reading for next couple of weeks (because coming weeks will be very hectic for me, so I don’t think I’ll be able to catch up with everyone πŸ˜…), your’s and Huguette’s were on the top of my list. And just to be clear, I’m just being honest and nothing else! (Btw, one of my new year resolutions was to practice truthfulness and I think I’m doing pretty good with that. I don’t lie unless it’s life and death situation πŸ˜‚)

    Now coming to topic of adversity. I think everyone have their own way of dealing with adversity. When I’m faced with such situations, I usually at first allow myself to completely feel the emotion and give time to register what exactly is happening. But after some time I tell myself, “It is here to teach you a lesson, infact a very important lesson. So instead of complaining about how miserable you’re feeling, start looking for answers and lessons it’s trying to teach you. Moreover, there are people who have been through much worst circumstances and still standing strong and shinning. You can do that too”.
    I think I’m highly optimistic person, so the way handle adversity is quite different πŸ˜…
    I really don’t like people who while listening about others adversity, start comparing it with there’s and turn the entire conversation on how their adversity is much worst than others. That’s very rude and disrespectful! 😠 And in all this they also miss a golden opportunity to learn from others.
    I like to listen and read about people,their stories and how they are fighting and overcoming their fears and adversity. There’s so much to learn from their stories. There are moments when I think, thank god I learned that valuable lesson from someone else’s struggle, I don’t want to go through what they have been through. 😬

    Gosh, my comment looks as long as a postπŸ˜‚ I think I took it a bit farπŸ˜…
    Have a wonderful day❀

    1. Ha ha You’re too kind. Especially by putting me in such great company. Huguette is a force to be reckoned with. Such a wonderful woman. A real inspiration. Glad you can see that too 😊
      I appreciate your honesty. In fact I value it. Good on you for making a real effort of it.
      Life or death? Well no one can blame you for lying in that situation πŸ˜‚
      I like the way you deal with adversity. Very grounded. I think that’s a great approach. Especially when you can think of others difficulties to put a bit of perspective on it. Look at Huguette’s story for example. And then how she turned out. Absolutely amazing.
      Ha ha You can never take a comment too far! I’m guilty of long comments myself. Sure we have to say what’s on our minds πŸ™‚
      I hope the coming weeks aren’t too hectic for you. Make sure to take time for yourself!
      Appreciate the wishes for a wonderful day…And the heart emoji 😊
      Hope you’re having a wonderful day too.
      Much love to you πŸ€—

      1. Couldn’t agree more! Huguette is a real inspiration. And that post about her journey is the most empowering and inspiring thing I have ever read. And believe me, if I could save that post in form of a poster, then I would have framed it and put it on my wallπŸ˜‚ No better way to start a day than to read thatπŸ˜…
        I think I’m a curious learner so I consider every situation, every person’s story as a learning opportunities. And sure, this helps me in putting things in perspective πŸ˜„
        I’m not very good at expressing myself in face to face conversations ( that’s something I’m currently working on) so I guess energy saved from there goes here, in writing long comments. HahahaπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        Thank you for your wishes. 😊 I’ve learned the importance of self care the hard way. So that’s something which is always be on top of my things-to-do list nowπŸ˜„
        As always, it’s fun interacting with you😊
        More love to you ❀

      2. Ah yes, being a curious learner is great. We’re always learning. It’s the real absolute people that annoy me. The ones who think they know it all and there’s nothing left to learn. There’s always more to learn.
        Glad you’re working on expressing yourself in face to face conversations. I only have problems talking about emotional things face on. But if I have an issue with people saying something I’ll let them know πŸ˜‚
        Here, I hope when your face on conversations improves it doesn’t take away from your long comments. I do enjoy them so 😊
        And hard lessons are good. Means they’re not easy forgot!
        Oh I never wanted to ask but I just found out your name. Swastik, I believe. It’s very nice knowing you. Huguette speaks highly of you. I can see why.
        Much love to you and keep looking after yourself 😊

      3. Good morning Chris!😊
        I believe learning is a life long process. And the day you stop learning, you stop growing and become stagnant. And we both know how stagnant water smells… It stinks!
        You don’t need much energy for doing things you love. So don’t worry long comments won’t stop…hahahaπŸ˜‚
        Well, not many people know my name. Huguette was first to askπŸ˜…
        It’s really nice knowing you as well!
        Have a great day and much love to you too❀

      4. Morning Swastik (Back on PC again. You know the drill. Smiley face here haha). Must say it feels good to use your name (Big smiley face). It’s the first time I’ve heard of such a name. Has it a meaning? and where are you from? (Getting really nosey now. Laughing face with tears). Mine’s pretty ordinary although I always used to think I was cursed Christopher being ‘the bearer of Christ’ and Porter ‘the carrier of burdens’. Like seriously (teary laughy face)
        Ha ha you’re right there. Don’t want to end up too stinky.
        And I’m glad the long comments won’t stop. Long may they continue.
        Been having a great day. Thank you. And much love to your good self (heart and blushy face lol)

      5. Good morning Chris!😊
        I have to say I’m liking this drill a lotπŸ˜„
        Okay so there’s a really funny story about my name. First thing first… I’m from India and people here are very particular about names. A name should have a nice meaning attached to it. My name means, ‘Pure and auspicious’. 😁 About the story behind my name… my parents at first wanted have a different name for me. They had two options in mind but it turned out that our relatives and friends couldn’t pronounce either of them right (I’m so thankful to them for that, because I actually don’t like those nameπŸ˜‚). So my parents decided to go for ‘Swastik’ because Swastik (which is very important symbol hindus use and have same significance as ‘OM’) is very important part of hindu culture so almost everyone knows how to pronounce it rightπŸ˜… And yeah, my mom is a very religious lady, hence this religious nameπŸ˜‚
        But the funny part is…my name’s symbol is similar to what Nazi’s used- ‘Swastika’. And now whenever I meet someone new, first question they ask me is “It’s a very nice and unique name. But I have a question. Were your parents thinking of Hitler when named you?” And, I’m like…NO. WELL, ATLEAST I HOPE NOT!πŸ˜‚
        So I have my favour share of laughs with my name πŸ˜ƒ
        Your’s is a very nice name. I hope now you don’t think the same about your nameπŸ˜…

        Oh the long comments are here to stayπŸ˜„
        I hope everything is well at your end😊
        Have a happy wonderful day!πŸ˜ƒ
        Much love to you❀

      6. Ha ha me too Swastik 😁 (on mobile again. Can you tell? πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚).
        That is a lovely story regarding your name. ‘Pure and auspicious’. Very cool indeed. Thank’s for sharing that πŸ™‚
        Glad you didn’t end up with the names you don’t like 😁. I used to read a lot about symbols and symbology so I was aware the Nazi’s had commandeered the Swastika. I believe it is a solar symbol and signified luck and fortune.
        Ha ha ‘parents thinking of Hitler’. Long as you don’t start goose-stepping and saluting you should be fine πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        Oh I’ve got over feeling cursed haha was just worried I’d be depressed forever because of it.
        Everything is well here. Thank you.
        Hope you’re having a great day yourself.
        Much love to you too 😊

      7. I have learned the protocol. So now I can definitely tell you’re commenting from PC or phoneπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        It’s interesting to know that you have interest in symbology. Yes, you’re absolutely right. It’s a solar symbol and signifies luck and fortune. Technically, my name should have been ‘swastika’ because it’s a girl name and ‘swastik’ is supposed to be guy’s name.But what can say, there are lot of fun facts about my nameπŸ˜‚ Btw, both have almost same meaning and significance.
        Oh, don’t worry about about! I’m the ideal kid of my house.πŸ˜‚
        Happy to know everything is well on your side. πŸ˜„
        Have a good night! 😊❀

      8. Haha good to know πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        You have a guys name?! That makes it all even funnier 🀣
        ‘Ideal kid’ haha I bet you are. This is actually going to be a short comment as I see you’ve an award nomination so I’m heading over there now. No point saying good night because I’ll be leaving another comment in a minute πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

      9. Poster indeed! You just ask hahah
        Oh this is really nice of you <3 Your words are really touching and uplifting 😊😊

    2. So kind of you dear Swastik <3 you're one of my favorite bloggers and human beings as well
      Appreciate your kind words and love <3 😊😊 I'm number 1 no? hahhaah Oh you have chosen the best: Chris is one of the best certainly 😁❀

      1. Favourite human being? Awww… thank you Huguette! 😘 This made my day😊

        O dear, YOU ARE MY NUMBER ONE! No doubt on that! πŸ˜ƒ And now, you have to find way to convert that post of yours into a poster and send it to meπŸ˜‰πŸ˜…
        Sorry Chris, you have to settle for number 2…HahahaπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

      2. Thank you dear Swastik and Chris for such amazing words! I replied before but I thought I should re-write a thank you for all this love and appreciation <3 you're both amazing 😊😊

      3. You’re pretty amazing yourself Huguette! And you’re more than welcome 😁
        You’ve brought all the love and appreciation on yourself. Nobody’s fault but yours πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
        I’m sure Swastik would agree.
        Much love to you ❀

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