We’ve all got it in our lives. That something we have to overcome. The challenge, the obstacle, the barrier in the way.
Each person’s is unique to themselves. It’s your own problem. A problem that can only be surmounted by you.
From an outsiders view we have a tendency to downplay some people’s adversity. That difficult or unpleasant event or situation for one person may not seem so bad for another.
We have this attitude of looking at someone’s issue and saying: “Is that all your worried about?”. “I wish I had your problems. “Look what I have to deal with”. That attitude is dismissive, disrespectful and ignorant.
If someone is facing a problem which to them feels like the biggest issue in the world. It is.
It doesn’t matter what you or I think about their problem. It doesn’t even matter if we don’t even think it is a problem at all. The fact it is a problem for them is all we need to know.
Of course there are some problems that would be difficult no matter what your perspective.
I read a blog post this week that was the most moving, heartbreaking, and the most inspiring thing I have ever read. It was a blogger telling the story of a part of her life. The things she had to endure as a child. Things that no child or adult should really have to endure. An adversity we could all agree on. One we would all have difficulty overcoming. If we could have at all.
Do you know what the beauty of it was though? At the end of the post this blogger was speaking of hope, inspiration. That child she was, the child she described as a ‘lonely bird with no wings’, had blossomed into a soaring eagle.
I have communicated quite often with this woman. She is strong, direct, truthful, whilst still being caring, compassionate, understanding. She is inspiration personified.
Why I am telling you? It’s simple really. It’s to show you that whatever adversity you have to overcome. Whatever challenge lies ahead of you. It’s not all bad. It’s actually way more than that.
Yes, whatever your issue is, whatever you have to face, whatever you have to deal with, can be really difficult. It might feel like it pushes you to the edge. It might feel like it will break you. It might have broken you a bit already.
But, and it is a very big but, when you come out the other side, when that adversity has been surmounted, when it is falling behind into nothing but memory. It will leave you with a gift.
It will give you a greater strength. A strength that has always been within you but that maybe you just weren’t aware you had. It will provide you with a greater understanding, a clearer insight, and a feeling of self-belief. It will give you power.
It will give you more than it has taken away. A gift not just for you but something you can share with the rest of the world.
Some adversity we create ourselves. Some arises from within ourselves. Some is thrust upon us. It doesn’t matter where it comes from.
It matters what you do with it. How you deal with it.
You will learn from it. It will help you grow. It will help turn you into something more beautiful than you already are. It will help you become your own eagle and fly.
P.s. Here is a link to the blog in question. It’s a two parter. I highly recommend you read it. Be warned. It is quite harrowing in places but definitely worth reading to the end.