Limits. We all have them. Sometimes it’s a limit that is put on us. By friends. By family. People we meet. Maybe even our circumstances. There is however one person that limits you the most. Yourself.
We think we can’t do something before we’ve even tried. We think we can’t do it after not trying enough. We think too much.
We might have a fear. It could be a lack of confidence. Whatever it is it makes us limit ourselves. We limit and keep limiting.
Here’s the thing. The thing that should tell you all about limits that you need to know. It’s not a thing actually. It’s an event. The Paralympics.
A sporting event where people of a range of disabilities compete against each other. There are many shining examples of overcoming limits to be found there. Basically everyone taking part.
There are runners who don’t have legs. I’ll write that again so it sinks in. There are runners who don’t have legs!!! Can you imagine how boundless their imagination is? Can you imagine the determination they have? They are limited by their own body and that still isn’t enough to stop them!
What’s your excuse for limiting yourself? And make no mistake. It is just that. An excuse.
Look, before you start feeling bad about yourself just remember you are not alone. We all do this to ourselves. Most of us are confined by the limits we set. I know I am. I know that’s why I’m not exactly living the life I want to. I know that’s why I’m doing a job where I’m not using the gifts I have. The abilities I possess.
Why? Because I lived a life of limits. Not feeling I was ever good enough. Not having enough self-confidence, self-belief, or the courage to go out there and do what I need to do.
Ok, maybe I haven’t been clear in just what I wanted to do. Maybe I’ve been afraid to chase the life I’ve really wanted. Most definitely I spent too much time smoking marijuana. Trying to dull the pain of my failures.
Thing is, I know, as you do too (whether you’ll admit it to yourself or not), you are where you are mostly because of yourself. Because of the limits you have imposed. I know that’s not good enough. Do you?
“Seriously, if you always put limits on what you can do, physical or anything else; it’ll spread over into the rest of your life. It’ll spread into your work, into your morality, into your entire being… There are NO limits. There are plateus, but you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. If it kills you, it kills you. A man must constantly exceed his level.”
I’m writing this post to try to shed some light onto just how much we hold ourselves back from the life we want. I’m also trying to explain some changes that I don’t even understand. This is a new one for me. Bear with me. I normally have my posts well analysed and understood before I write them down. Not this one. It’s more of a go with the flow type of post. It’s me trying to understand if I’ve been limiting myself too much.
This morning I did something I have never done. It didn’t make any sense. I’m not even sure why I did it. I just felt an impulse. An impulse that made me raise my two hands in the air, wide open in a beckoning manner, and shout at the universe to “Come on!”. It wasn’t in a pleading mercy kind of way. It was a ‘I want the most from life’ kind of way.
If I think about it, it seems strange. I’ve never done such a thing before. Thing is, it felt right.
Now to back up a bit.
This week has been something else. I can tell something has changed. Something that is bigger than the limited me I used to be. I know I recently talked about what I believe. That belief isn’t set in stone though. It’s also evolving. Growing. Becoming a more powerful force than I imagined. I’m even starting to believe my imagination was the thing that was limiting it.
There have been a few synchronicities this week. Things that have happened and been said to me. Things that have even baffled my logical thinking side. Thankfully I also have a side that’s as mad as a box of frogs that’s ready to accept the strange and unusual. There’s always room for more frogs 🙂
I’ve been listening to a book by Jen Sincero called You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life. Basically it’s a Law of Attraction type of book. I have ignored this book many times when it has appeared in my Audible recommendations. The title made me think it was a book geared to women and also a bit silly for my liking.
This week however I decided to read the reviews found under it on Audible. The second review was someone saying that they didn’t consider reading this book because of the title. That they only did so because it had been recommended to them by friends so much. They then said it was one of the best books they had read. I felt that review was speaking to me so I used my monthly credit on it.
If there was ever a book I needed to listen to it was this. Not just because the author is funny and insightful. Not just because she too was in her 40’s before she really got her life together. But because it has helped set a change in motion. Another shift in my mindset. But one that is a bit more out there than say the difference between the fixed and growth mindset that first set me on this path.
The funny thing is since I have listened to this book I have noticed a real shift, not just in me, but in the world around me. Things are happening. Strange things like money appearing in my bank account that I wasn’t expecting. Like me secretly wishing for something and then it happens.
Is it the Law of Attraction (I’ve never really believed in such a thing). Is it something else? Is it just me letting go of certain limiting behaviour? Opening myself up to a world of limitless possibilities?
Now combine this with the fact that two people this morning called me one of their favourite bloggers. That another person suggested an avenue I should pursue in my life outside of blogging (Something I have been thinking about a lot myself) and that another person told me yesterday I had helped uplift and motivate them. And that another person said I had made their day.
The amount of love and positivity that has been received the past few days has been unreal. Frankly more than I’ve had in years. I also received 3 blogging award nominations in 2 days.
Oh I also appeared in 3 local newspapers in relation to my blogging. (That I can rationalise. I’m not great with social media. But old school press releases I can do. So considering a few people have told me to get myself out there more, get marketing. I did so. I made up my own press release and sent it out. Lo and behold it worked).
What is going on? I don’t understand it. Is it coincidence, serendipity, or the Law of Attraction. Is it because I have been working my ass off. Trying daily to dispel any feelings of unworthiness. Trying to break the conditioning that has been put on me by myself and years of negative thinking. Trying to create a better life for my son and I. Trying constantly to take this life and make what I want of it whilst spreading as much joy, love and positivity as I can along the way. Trying to break my limits.
Truth is, I don’t need to understand it. It doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is that I’m not putting limits on myself anymore. And you shouldn’t either!
Whatever this is I’m in. Heart and soul. Full tilt into the unknown. Leave your limits behind and join me. A new world, a new life, awaits you. What are you waiting for?
P.s What do you think? It is the Law of Attraction (Does such a thing exist?) or something else? Is it because I am being more meaningful in my thoughts and actions? Is it just coincidence?