How To Win When The Battle Is Within

There’s no denying that the greatest battle anyone will ever have is the one we have with ourselves. That constant conflict between the positive and negative that lies within us. The challenge that leaves us either feeling happy about ourselves or wallowing in our self-pity and hating the world.

So how do you win when the battle is within yourself?

Take me for example. I have spent many years losing that battle. I wasted so much time doing nothing of consequence. My own victim of self-indulgence, self-satisfaction, and poor outlook. It has only been in the past year that I have really got my act together. Found my direction.

How To Win When The Battle Is Within Ourselves
Your state of mind determines who you are.

This blog is a reflection of me. It’s a work in progress. A journey of development just the same as our lives.

There are times when I’m riding the wave, feeling on top of things, moving in the right direction, and feeling like I’m doing the right thing in my life. Then there are the times I come crashing down, feeling low, and feeling like I’m getting nowhere.

I got some great blogging advice during the week. Advice I had read before but for some reason really struck a chord on this occasion. That advice told me to view blogging as a marathon, not as a sprint.

I realised that is also true about life. Thing is, I’ve been trying to run that marathon at the same speed as a sprinter. I’ve been trying to do it all and have it done by yesterday. I been fighting battles outside myself and within.

“If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self” – Napoleon Hill


So how do you win your battles? How do you learn to conquer yourself?

Self-Discipline – This is key to personal greatness. You need to be able to keep taking the right steps no matter how you are feeling.

Delay Instant Gratification – I lived a life of instant gratification. It gets you nowhere. Hold off and you’ll find bigger and more satisfying rewards later.

Gratitude – Take stock. Be thankful for the things you have and don’t dwell on what you don’t.

Positive Speech – Speech is a powerful thing. It’s the vocal output of your mindset. Speaking positively can help maintain a positive frame of mind.

Physical Health – If you are fortunate to have good health you need to look after it. It gives you the energy you need to keep pushing on.

Persistence – Keep on keeping on. Take the steps you need to, to get where you want to go, and don’t stop. (There’s a great lesson here from a furry friend )

Take Responsibility – Own it! It’s your life. You need to make the best decisions. Stop blaming and take accountability for your life and your actions.

How To Win When The Battle Is Within Yourself
The biggest mountain to conquer is your mind!

On your road to self-mastery, to conquering your bad habits, you will have many battles. Some you will win, some you will lose. As any military expert will tell you it’s not the battles that matter but the outcome of the war.

I thought I had lost battles this week. I was feeling overwhelmed. Feeling like I achieved nothing. I was so pissed off at my apparent struggles, and what I felt was a lack of time, that I wrote a post about the problems of time management. I blamed not having enough time. I blamed the methods and suggestions of others in how to find time. I blamed.

โ€œA man is born to achieve great things if he can conquer himself.โ€ Bruce Lee

Today I realised I was just making excuses for my poor planning. My mindset had slipped back to my old way of thinking by finding excuses instead of finding answers. I was lashing out at problems that were all within.

Instead of looking at all the problems I thought I had I should have been looking at the things I still managed to achieve. There was one day in particular. The first day really since I quit smoking marijuana that I really, really,ย wanted to get stoned. I was having difficulty dealing with my apparent lack of time to get things done. I was carrying emotional issues, my own and someone else’s, and trying not to let them break me.

Yes, that day was a real struggle, but looking back on it now I realise that whilst I was a bit of a mess, whilst my feelings were getting the better of me, I didn’t break down. I didn’t smoke any weed. I learned a new skill (How to set up a Pinterest account, connect my blog to it, and make Pins). I also did all the good parental things I needed to. I Made sure my son went to school with clean clothes and lunch with him. Spent time with him later, made our food, washed the dishes. Basically was present as a father. He wouldn’t have noticed any difference in me.

That was all down to self-discipline. Something I never used to have. I used to be the type of person that when something went wrong I just gave up. I used to be all for instant gratification. I used to be like that.

Looking back on it, I actually have a lot to be thankful for on that day. And that’s only one particular day.

How To Win When The Battle Is Within

I actually got work done every day. Maybe not the work I wanted or would have wished to get done. Like an extra blog post for example. But I got work done that will help me in the marathon of blogging and life. Only now am I realising the gratitude I should have had then.

This post is as much a message to myself as to anyone that reads. We’ll all struggle with ourselves some days. We’ll feel that some days either life or ourselves will have beaten us down. That we haven’t moved forward. Days like that we really need to take stock. Appreciate the good in them. The small steps that were taken despite the opposition we face or create ourselves.

We need to understand that not all days are going to go as planned. There’s going to be mishaps and upsets, trials and tribulations. But as long as we maintain our aims in mind. As long as we keep doing something to progress with our goals and our lives. As long as we appreciate the things we have rather than the things we do not. We are still moving in the right direction. Still climbing that internal mountain. Becoming the victors in our own lives. Winning the battles within. And that can only be a good thing.


17 thoughts on “How To Win When The Battle Is Within

  1. Some days will be dark and dreary…Some days will have crashing waves to drown you and bring you down…some days will activate earthquakes that will shake you, put you in uneven ground…Some days won’t be good at all. But you have to remember that with rain comes cleanliness and refreshing weather. Remember that those same waves? They will be the ones to soothe you, calm your soul. And those earthquakes? They may urge you to move to somewhere better, somewhere that will surely make you shine with delight.

    We, as humans, do not, and cannot, understand and see the whole picture eith all its angels in such dire situations, and so we do not know that we shall not judge and give up now because things always move to the better, unless that person is not driven, determined and does not believe that this road, perhaps, is not a dead end.

    May you have a great day/night ๐Ÿ˜Š

    1. That was lovely…and quite profound. Thank you ๐Ÿ™
      It’s been a complicated day to say the least. Ah well.
      Hope you are keeping well at least. Best wishes to you ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. Hi Nour Lee ๐Ÿ™‚ I am very flattered that you thought of me for this award. That is very kind of you to do so. Unfortunately I no longer take part in such things as my blogging time is quite limited. I hope you don’t mind.
        Best wishes to you and I hope you are keeping well.

  2. You found the jewel contained within the challenge Chris. If only there was an easy way to remember that lesson and not develop anxiety amnesia when every new challenge hits.

  3. These are certainly great tips to win the battle within and itโ€™s the main and major battle! I loved the advice โ€œto view blogging as a marathon, not as a sprint.โ€ Itโ€™s very important to know the difference and act accordingly and not whip ourselves when we donโ€™t reach certain goals in a certain day, some days we might be low energy or feeling not productive or down but other days theyโ€™re certainly different and what matter most than remembering the goals is keeping yourself in a great condition and conquer the battle inside so you can continue this journey on another day, otherwise we will be hard on ourselves for nothing and then we will lose the war.

    Great share as usually dear Chris, inspiring and meaningful ๐Ÿ˜Š
    Have a great day and much love and support to you ๐Ÿ˜Š <3

    1. It is the main and major battle. And it never ends!!! It’s a challenge every day. Some days we win, some days we don’t. I guess as long as we keep trying to fight the good fight that’s all we can ask of ourselves. I do think we can be harder on ourselves than we are with other people.
      Anyways, glad you liked it. Off to the next comment haha

      1. I was reading something interesting on a fellow blogger, that we shouldn’t be hard on ourselves, we should practice self care not pushing ourselves hard or criticizing or so, or speaking negative etc…it was interesting that we need to be so gentle not hard on ourselves, and we often mix…so let’s hope we;ll always win these battles without being so hard! ๐Ÿ™‚ Checking other comments ๐Ÿ™‚

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