Ever wonder if life coaching is worth it? Or just a con? Is it good for you or a waste of time?
Wonder no more. Here is the real lowdown on life coaching. The truth. The reality you won’t be told anywhere.
Life coaching can be worth it. But it is also a con. There’s a lie in life coaching.
Who am I to be dispensing such wisdom? How am I qualified to do so? Well, my name’s Chris and I’m a Life Coach.
This isn’t a pitch. There is no gain for me in this except the knowledge that I might at least help one person save their money for a service they don’t actually require.
Life coaches everywhere are going to be outraged. I’m sure a lot of people who have used those services will also be affronted, claiming I’m wrong. They will argue that life coaching has changed their lives, and for the better. That before life coaching they were not happy with their lives. That now they feel fulfilled and successful.
And they would be right in that. Life coaching can help you to change your life. The principles and application of the life coaching process are effective in helping you improve upon yourself and your life. I don’t dispute that.
It’s the life coaching industry that is the con. It’s an industry that is unnecessary. You don’t need to pay £50 an hour for a life coach to help you to help yourself. You just need a good friend.
Seriously. That’s it. You need a friend you can set goals with and hold you accountable. You need a friend that will listen to you without judgement and help you come to conclusions about yourself that you can then work on.
An honest friend. A trusted friend. You could even be that friend to someone else.
If you don’t have, or can’t get, a friend like that. There’s another solution still.
What is Life Coaching?
The top search result on Google for What is life coaching? tells us that: A life coach is a trained professional who aims to help and guide individuals to make, meet and exceed personal and professional goals.
The next result, which is from http://www.skillsyouneed.com, says ‘life coaching has grown to be a hugely successful form of talking therapy, to the extent that it has helped turn people’s lives around’.
Already, through a basic search we all would complete, we are seeing life coaching being associated with the words, ‘trained professional’ and ‘therapy’. Two outright lies.
When learning to become a life coach the point, that life coaches are not therapists, is reiterated and stressed throughout.
The main reason for this is because a good life coach needs to ask about your life, your past, the things that motivate or repel you, where your values lie. The questioning skirts around the same area as a therapists would. A distinction must be made because life coaches are not professionals. They don’t deal with mental health.
They haven’t spent years qualifying for their craft. In fact, and a scary fact it is, anyone can become a life coach. Like really, anyone. Right now! You can literally call yourself a life coach and start your life coaching business as soon as you have the thought to do so.
Life Coaching Is Not Regulated By Any Authority
About now life coaches are probably irate. Yes, they aren’t regulated by any authority in the UK, America, Canada and Australia, for example. But there are online courses you can do that can provide you with a certificate to help bolster your credentials. Provide a degree of authenticity. The places that provide the course and certificate may even be deemed fairly respectable.
It gives an appearance of life coaching being more than it is. You can practice with a fairly reputable certificate behind you. There’s the illusion of professionalism. People like certificates.
Let’s look at one of those courses shall we?
Just so you know, I’m not calling myself a life coach because anyone can. I actually went and did one of those courses. Got myself a nice certificate to prove it.
To show you how farcical that is. I need to tell you a little story.
I started my life coaching course not long after I started my blog. Roughly a year ago. I felt strong, positive, energetic. I did about 3 stages, out of 10, I think, then stopped. I let the course fall by the wayside.
Then roughly around, November/December I fell into a bit of a depression. Things got a bit tough. I had a bit of a breakdown. It was all a bit shit.
One night, on a whim, I decided to look at the course. The exam was to be about 35/45 minutes long and it was multiple choice!
So I clicked all the study stages as complete and did the test. Finished it in 7 minutes. The pass mark was 70%. I got 83%.
I was a mess at this point in my life. It had temporarily went to shit. But I’m still able to get a certificate that enables me to truthfully say to people that I can help them with their lives! Bit of a joke really.
Why Life Coaching is A Con. The Lie In Life Coaching.
The reason life coaching is a con, isn’t just the fact that it isn’t regulated, or that the available tests seem somewhat easy. Or that as long as you say the right words, speak the right lingo, you could pass yourself off as a good one.
It’s because it is completely unnecessary.
If we were better people, surrounded ourselves with better people, were just honest with each other, and ourselves, we wouldn’t need life coaches. We wouldn’t have to worry about whether it is a con or not. The industry would be redundant.
Even if it was just to have that friend. One who encouraged us to meet and exceed our goals.
As it is. We do need it. Life coaching exists for a reason. Some of us feel the need for help, for direction, a guide for the right path.
Because of that you may well enter the minefield of the life coaching industry. Where a good bullshitter can be a success. And there are thousands to choose from.
So what do you do?
Your Life Coaching Solution
You think you would benefit from seeing a life coach. You know it can work for people. You find one with glowing testimonials on their website (a successful marketing ploy). You feel like giving it a go.
Before you do anything you should know something vitally important.
There is one, and one person only, that can make life coaching work for you. And, well… That’s you!
It matters little how good or bad a life coach is. It only matters how you apply its principles and guidelines to yourself.
With that in mind. Rather than spending all your money on a fairly expensive, probably weekly, session, you could simply find one of those ‘accepted’ courses, even wait until they are on offer, and life coach yourself for about £20.
That way the only bullshitter you meet. The only lie you’ll find in life coaching. Might just be yourself.